What to expect from counselling

Counselling is a unique experience for everyone. Every counsellor also has a unique approach informed by their training, interests and life experiences.

My approach is founded on person-centred counselling. It is also informed by a number of other approaches and considerations.

About Person-Centred Counselling

Why Online Counselling?

Person-Centred Counselling and ‘Mental Illness’ 

Being a Person-Centred Counsellor

My Interests and Life Experiences

What to expect from the counselling process

About Person-Centred Counselling

Person-centred counselling is based on the understanding that all human beings are different, we all have different ways of perceiving the world, and you are the expert on your own life. 

As such, person-centred counselling is very flexible and adaptable. It’s based entirely around you as an individual – what you think and how you actually feel.

Why Online Counselling?

Online counselling offers unparalleled flexibility. You can work from wherever and whenever you feel comfortable. And with no travel, it is also much easier to fit around other activities, such as work and hobbies.

The flexibility of online counselling also provides better accessibility. You can access counselling whether you have a health condition or impairment, live in the countryside, can’t afford city-based counsellors, or come from a country where counsellors aren’t as available. As long as you have internet, you can access counselling.

Some people may decide that online counselling is not for them. There is sometimes a feeling of security that comes from going to a designated counselling space, or perhaps you live with people who you don’t want to overhear. If these issues are important to you, you may want to consider face-to-face counselling.

To book a no-obligation introductory session to find out whether online counselling is right for you, visit my booking page.

Person-Centred Counselling and ‘Mental Illness’

Person-centred counsellors don’t diagnose ‘mental illness’. 

Instead, person-centred counsellors accept that people adapt to survive and sometimes these survival/coping mechanisms lead people to think/feel/behave in ways they find unhelpful or distressing.

It’s the work of counselling to explore these experiences, ways of coping, thoughts, feelings, and behaviours to help gain greater understanding, a sense of meaning, and a clearer perspective.

Research has shown that person-centred counselling can work well and improve the quality of life for people with a range of mental health diagnoses.

Find out more about how I work with mental health diagnoses.

Being a Person-Centred Counsellor

The counsellor’s job is to help you explore your experiences, behaviours, thoughts, and feelings without judgement. 

There are three essential qualities a person-centred counsellor needs to be effective:

• Empathy – the ability and willingness to try and understand and feel what you feel as fully as possible, and communicating that to you.
• Genuineness – being open and honest with what they’re saying and why, offering a genuine thought, feeling or input.
• Non-judgement – respecting the fact that everyone sees the world differently which means we’re in no position to judge.

My Interests and Life Experiences

My practice is also informed by other theoretical approaches, such as psychodynamic and existential counselling, somatic (body-based) understanding, neuroscience, emotion-focused therapy, CBT, and psychology more generally.

I also feel acutely aware that the planet and society are undergoing dramatic changes and that these affect how we think, feel, and behave. These wider political, environmental, sociological, and philosophical points also inform my work.

Find out more About Me

What to expect from the counselling process

While counselling is unique for everyone, there are some common things you can expect from counselling:

• Initial sessions focus on exploring – It’s like drawing a map of your world so we know the lay of the land, the important features, as well as any dangerous areas.

 

• Things may get worse before they get better – Stirring things up can be difficult. It is often necessary to open old wounds, explore traumatic experiences, and confront difficult thoughts and feelings.

 

• Things can get messy and confusing – Unlike TV, not every thread is neatly tied up and not everything makes perfect sense. Life is messy and complicated.

 

• I offer metaphors, spot patterns, and draw links – Three things I am particularly good at and which clients often find helpful. However, it’s important to push back if what I offer doesn’t ‘fit’ with your experience so we can further explore and clarify together.

 

• I will sometimes offer suggestions but never ‘advice’ – I am not the expert in your life, you are. But I will have some things to try out if you want to. These are never mandatory, are not ‘advice’, and I won’t think less of you if you prefer not to take them.

 

• There is no magic wand – As much as I would like to magic away your problems, I can’t. Any easy solution to complex and messy issues like life should be treated with scepticism.

 

• You have power in the room – Counselling is collaborative work. If you don’t like something, you can change it. If you want something specific, you can ask for it. If you want to change focus, you can.

Further questions around counselling, what to expect, issues like confidentiality, etc. are explored in my FAQs page.